For Resilience: Feelings are Your Friends

How are you feeling today? No, really - how are you feeling?

But the way to deal with these feelings is through them and not around them.

And the research shows that when you fully have a feeling - I mean really let yourself feel it - it tends to pass pretty quickly. (There are a few tricks we teach in our resilience program).

Can you see the link to resilience?

Most of us brush over that question pretty quickly.

After all, feelings of helplessness, loss, floundering are not usually encouraged.

It’s always get on, accomplish more, do!

Feeling your feelings fully makes you more resilient, not less.

The research also shows that the more nuanced your description of your own feelings – the better.

The way to rid yourself of tough feelings is to have them.
That’s the key to resilience.

So is it:

• I'm "okay" or I'm "excited/energised/curious/confident"?

• I'm "anxious" or I'm "fearful/don't want to be exposed/embarrassed/worried/lost"

• Some combination - you can hold two opposite emotions at the same time.
  
  You don’t have to tell anyone - tell it to yourself.

I’ll start: posting this blog I’m feeling a mixture of excitement, curiosity and fear about being judged.

The way to digest your feelings and become more resilient is to have them.

What feelings are you having today?

#Resilience #bounceback #feelingsareyourfriends #hybridleadership